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Helping Kids Help Themselves
by E. Perry Good
All teachers want all of their students to learn well, to behave, and to assume personal responsibility. Coercion, blaming, yelling, and threatening will not help students to be responsible and, in most cases, will stop it. Helping Kids Help Themselves is the only way to get all students to want to learn, to behave, and to be responsible. - Dr. Albert Mamary, Director, National Center for Outcome Based Education, AZ
1. Introducing the Problem ... 1
2. Defining Help ... 37
3. Creating Involvement ... 69
4. Exploring the Perceptual System ... 99
5. Accessing the Quality World ... 129
6. Learning Self-Evaluation ... 157
7. Choosing a New Attitude ... 185
From Chapter 1: Introducing the Problem
There is no shortage of adults trying to help kids. In fact, there are many more adults who want to help kids than there are kids who want help.
Good intentions are not good enough. Adults really do want to help kids, yet kids resist the "help" they are offered. Kids even cringe when they hear their parents say, "Let me give you some advice." Perhaps teachers, counselors, and parents have a lot of faith in methods of "help" that do not work.
Frequently the behaviors adults use to "help" kids don't help at all. What adults call help is many times a thinly disguised attempt to get the kid to do what the parent, teacher, or counselor thinks is best. And sometimes the parent doesn't know WHAT to do to help. Unfortunately, we don't go to school to learn how to be good parents. The only instructors that a parent has previously had were his own parents and teachers.